My Mum visited last week and we had a wonderful time hanging out and playing with Milo. By the end of the trip he had really gotten comfortable with her and was chewing on her chin and reaching up for hugs. At the beginning though, when I left them in the car together and ran into a shop for 10 minutes, Milo had a separation anxiety attack and didn't stop wailing until he spotted me approaching. My poor mum had to run through the store with a crying baby while people stared at her and wondered why she wasn't doing something to make him stop. It seems that I can't leave him with anyone besides Chris!
The books say that he will grow out of it, but it does worry me that he might not get over it by the time that I would like to return to work. I suppose he will cope with whatever situation develops, but I am trying to figure out ways to minimize the stress for him and for me. One option might be to have someone come to the house to look after him while I am here so that he is in his familiar environment and I'm not far away. The thought of leaving him somewhere and him being upset all day is just heart breaking to me.
This attachment parenting thing I've been practicing really works I guess!! All the carrying, nursing, co-sleeping and time off really works like glue with a baby. Eventually, the theory goes, all of this attachment and dependence on me now will foster greater independent and confidence later. Here's hoping.
So back to my mum's trip!! We didn't do much, it was just nice to have her around and to see her bonding with Milo. It's so difficult for me knowing that all my family is so far away and wanting more than anything for Milo to know them and to understand where I come from and how I grew up. Hopefully I can teach him and expose it to him enough that he will love going to Canada as much as I do. And I know that as he gets older the less time it will take for him to re-connect with my family when they see each other.
We miss you Mum!!
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